The Day There Were No
Magi
I
returned to work early. It was two days before Little
Christmas. I usually stayed home during this time of
year. For Maggie, for Brian, and for the kid in me. This
Christmastide, I had to call Swathmore, a potential
client whom I had been trying to land for months.
When
I called Swathmore, I knew that Brian was at school, but
I didn't know that Maggie was driving to a medical lab. I
don't know if I would have wanted to know because my
pulse would have quickened and my blood pressure would
have rose as hers must have when technicians drew blood,
carried cups of her urine away, greased her belly, and
waved the sonogram wand over her belly. Rather than
screaming in celebration "I got Swathmore," I
would have sat with Maggie in silence as we drove back to
Dr. Maslowe's office. Rather than puffing on a victory
cigar in my office, I would have watched Maslowe sit on
the edge of his desk. Rather than feeling colleagues clap
me on the back, I would have seen Maslowe look into
Maggie's eyes and I would have seen what I still find
incomprehensible and would have heard the words.
"There's
no easy way of saying this." In repeating the
conversation,
Maggie told me he paused for an eternity. "We can no
longer get a
heartbeat," he said.
"What do you mean?" I
can see Maggie not believing.
"There's no heartbeat.
You'll have to go full term. I'm sorry. It's a
matter of days. I would induce you but you might
hemorrhage."
"My baby's dead?" She
would have leaned back, her hands over her mouth
after she uttered the words.
"Probably so. You must
listen. I know it's hard." He paused again.
"There remains a chance you will hemorrhage even if
you go term." He
hugged her.
"My baby's dead?" She
said through her sobs.
"I want you to call your
husband. Now. I'll do it if you want, but you
should call. Use my personal phone."
"Yes."
Maslowe would have left the room.
She would have cried. Before
picking up the receiver, she would have
drawn a deep breath.
I will never forget the ring. I
remember thinking at the time it sounded
celebratory.
"Seth," she said.
"How you doing? I landed
that pain in the ass Swathmore. We've got to
celebrate. Dinner out tonight?"
"Seth." There were
tears in her voice. "The baby's dead." She
wailed.
"What?"
"The baby's dead."
"A miscarriage? Where
are you?"
"No miscarriage. He's
dead in me, inside of me. Shit," she yelled.
"What do you
mean?"
"Shit, Seth, he's
dead. I have to go term. The doctor is afraid I'll
hemorrhage. Shit, this isn't suppose to happen. Not to
me." She cried
more. "I've got to go."
"Are you all right?"
"I guess."
"I'll be there
shortly."
I threw the cell phone at
the wall, pieces flying. Evelyn was standing
near my threshold, her mouth opened wide. She was staring
at me, the
office Iceman.
"I have to go home.
Tell whomever."
Maggie
drove the back streets of Quinnipiac, I the interstate. I
pulled into our driveway just as Maggie got out of her
car. She saw me and cried. With my arm around her, we
entered the house. We took off our coats in the kitchen.
She rubbed her stomach. She cried.
"The
examination was so weird," she said as she wiped the
tears. "It wasn't what Maslowe was doing that was
weird. It was out of sequence. I can't explain. It didn't
feel right. Then the look on his face. It was blank. Then
the other look."
"What look?"
"The nurse. The look in her
eyes when she gave me directions to the labs. Then the
driving. It was so hard. God, I'm more than eight months
pregnant. I knew something was wrong. The technicians all
stared. Maybe they didn't, I don't know. Maybe it felt
like they were staring. Saying nothing. The silence. Then
Maslowe. Listening to him. He was trying to be kind. He
did tell me after I hung up with you that it was no one's
fault. It was a thousand to one shot. Who makes up those
odds anyway?" She paused. "Shit!"
"What?"
"I just remembered my
appointment two weeks ago."
"And."
"I told Maslowe that the
baby was barely moving."
"You never told me."
"I was too scared, I guess.
I thought it was me. Anyway, he said that it's not
uncommon for a baby to slow down in the third
trimester."
"Did
he miss something?"
"No." She looked
frightened. "I'm not sure. I don't think so. He
monitored the heart beat. He did it for me. I saw the
beat on the monitor. I can even remember him saying,
'Feel better now.' I did. But I'll never forget feeling
that something wasn't right. It's my fault."
"If it's anyone's fault,
it's Maslowe's."
"You don't understand. I
could feel it."
"Maggie, if you knew
something was wrong, you would have done something."
"But why didn't I? He was my
baby." She cried. I tried to hug her. I wanted to
cry with her. To tell her he was my baby too. But I
couldn't. I didn't think she wanted to hear that yet. She
would have blamed herself.
She would have apologized
to me, saying "I'm sorry." I couldn't bare
that.
"I don't want to see anyone.
I mean anyone." She stood at the kitchen sink
looking at the basin for a while. "I don't mean you
or Brian. I need you two, nobody else. Nobody.
Okay?"
"Sure."
I waited for her to say
something. Without thinking, I pounded my fist into the
wall. My knuckles swelled, but there was no pain.
"Fuck."
Maggie held me.
We talked for an hour, about what
I can't remember. Then we cried until our words and sobs
dissolved into nonsense.
We were sitting at the kitchen
table when Brian came in the back door. He was home from
first grade. The bus had stopped in front of the house,
and we never heard it. He waited at the door. He stared
at me. I was never home in the middle of the day during
the school week.
"Don't tell him,"
Maggie said, almost in tears.
"Maggie, we have to. He can
see something's wrong."
"But he's so little."
"Maggie, we've got to.
Brian, come here."
I grabbed his hand. We walked
into the living room. Maggie followed. I lifted him into
his favorite seat. I knelt in front of him. "I've
got to tell you something that's lousy."
"What?"
"The baby's dead."
Brian looked at Maggie. Then at
me.
"Yes, the baby is still
inside Mommy's stomach, but he's dead. Something
happened, we don't know what. It's no one's fault. No
one's. Not Mommy's, the doctor's, mine, or anyone's. Got
that."
He looked at me and nodded. He
stood. He started to run. I grabbed him and hugged. He
cried, collapsing in my arms, his knees sinking to the
rug. I closed my eyes and saw him and Maggie on the
couch, he feeling the baby's kicks, asking if the baby
was a boy or girl, wondering when he could play with the
baby, fascinated at where the baby was growing, that he
too grew in there. He pulled away. I let go. He ran to
Maggie and hugged her legs.
I was preparing a dinner of cold
cut sandwiches. Brian was watching tv. Maggie sat at the
table.
"He was strangled and
suffocated," Maggie said, the words sounding
colder than the January night air.
"Who?"
"Shane."
"Who?"
"Our son Shane." She
had pushed for the names Shane or Jeanette for several
weeks. I didn't want to name the child until he or she
was born.
"The doctor said the sonogram was clear. He asked if
I wanted to know the baby's sex. I said yes. He told me,
'Boy.' Then he explained that the umbilical cord was
knotted and was wrapped around his neck."
"Shit." I cried.
Maggie hugged me. She let go and
stepped back. "I don't want you in the delivery
room."
"Why?"
"The doctor thinks there's a
chance he's not right. Doesn't look right. He wouldn't
show me the sonogram. I asked if I could hold Shane after
the delivery. He said that I could, but that I might not
want to because of." She sobbed, and I felt a
silence and, in that silence, lie a wish to scream so
loud as not to be heard. I whispered, "Whatever you
want. I'll be there or not. Whatever you want."
We ate. We didn't talk. Later
Maggie phoned her mother while Brian and I watched
television. Brian was in my lap, snuggling. I have no
idea what we were watching. I had imagined many things,
the death of Brian, of Maggie, of being abandoned by her,
but I never thought of losing a child before his birth.
Of watching Maggie feel her body being transformed into a
sarcophagus. Of imaging an umbilical cord, strong, thick,
and bloody, twisting into a noose. Of hearing Maggie
blame herself for a death. Of wondering if I could have
scared the child in my sleep. Turning, accidentally
hitting him, forcing him to twist, coiling the cord
around his neck.
As we held each other in bed that
night, I wondered if she wanted to die. I begged god,
God, the universe, or whomever or whatever to trade my
life for the baby's.
The day before Little Christmas,
I woke early. As the coffee brewed, I went into the attic
with a thirty gallon trash bags. Into the black bag I
dropped a stuffed lamb, a special room deodorizer, and a
check, as well as other stuff still in boxes wrapped in
gold and silver. When I lifted the bag, a plastic cherub
fell out. I crushed it with my foot and put the pieces in
the bag. By the time the coffee was done, the bag sat
next to the outside trash bin.
Maggie was still asleep, and I
didn't wake Brian for school, but he slept only an extra
fifteen minutes. He asked for instant oatmeal. I was
drinking a cup of coffee as I waited for the water to
boil. The doorbell rang. Ann stood at our doorstep,
suitcase in hand. A taxi pulled out of our driveway. I
could hear the memory of Maggie's voice, "I don't
want to see anyone." I asked Ann to wait outside in
the cold. I ran upstairs and woke Maggie, expecting her
to say, "Send her home." She walked down the
stairs, opened the door, and hugged her mother. They
talked for an hour in our bedroom. The remainder of the
day is lost between grief and fear.
The next morning, I woke early.
It was Little Christmas, the day when twelve geese are
alaying, the end of Christmastide. My neighbors had yet
to yank down their decorations, and in the predawn light,
the ribbons and wreaths drooped. I looked around. No
stars. No shepherds. No angels. No Magi. No gifts. No
geese. No newspaper. I walked back into the house.
Brian and Ann were asleep. Maggie
was up, sitting at the kitchen table. I joined her. We
waited for the coffee to brew. Maggie was walking with
her empty coffee cup to the kitchen table. In mid-stride,
her water broke. Her body froze. Her eyes teared. I stood
staring at her. We woke her
mother. Told her to care for Brian. That we'd call.
I drove Maggie to the hospital.
She timed her contractions.
The prep area was small, its
walls papered with a floral print. Monitors beeped, red
dots traced spiked patterns on green screens, and nurses
moved about quietly without making eye contact with
either of us. In that moment I realized that I had never
noticed the room's size, its decorations, or the
equipment when Brian was born.
Maggie was in the bed. "The
room's cold."
I walked outside the prep room to
look for a nurse.
"Seth, come here."
"What?" I walked back
into the room.
"I don't want to be
alone."
A woman in another room screamed.
I presumed she was in transition. Maslowe came in. He was
old, an age assuring, at least to me, that he possessed
the knowledge needed to keep Maggie safe. "Do you
feel any unusual discomfort?"
"No. Nothing."
He moved the sheets and examined
her. "Everything is progressing as it should."
I hated that should. Everything
wasn't progressing as it should. I remained silent. I had
to coach her, but could anyone coach her? Inside me I was
screaming: Who'll swap places with me? Who has the guts
to tell a woman to blow during contractions while inside
her awaits the confirmed death of your son, the potential
of her guts spilling onto the floor, life draining from
her as if she were gutted by the child for whom she cared
for thirty-four weeks, five days? Then to remember if you
had sex a week, a day, an hour earlier, or had you
ejaculated a minute or even a second sooner or any God
damn equivalent later, maybe none of this would have
happened. What could a man know of birth, never having
felt that moment when the body tingled with the
excitement and fear at the notion of conception? The
aches and pains of a normal pregnancy. The vulnerability
of walking and sitting with thirty, forty, fifty pounds
hanging off your abdomen. A baby dancing on your kidneys,
bladder, and intestines. I knew none of that. I just knew
fear and loss. Of knowing that in a flick of time I would
lose Shane and could lost Maggie.
She started transition.
"You have to leave
now." The nurse guided me to the door. In the
waiting room, there was coffee table covered with issues
of Sports Illustrated's, Newsweek's, American Baby's,
Ladies Home Journal's, and Women's Day's. Brochures in a
wall rack spoon fed tips on nursing, diapers, doctors,
parental emotions, and finances. I needed information
about morticians, funerals, plots, baptisms, limbo,
heaven and hell. I slapped the rack, knocking it down,
scattering the brochures.
A television was tuned to
Jeopardy. I sat, staring at the door, waiting for a nurse
to show me my scrubs. I counted ceiling tiles.
Floor tiles. Watched the show. A contestant selected the
category "Africa." I never heard the answer. I
thought only that death was the anticipated but
unwelcomed guest of parents in the third world, but not
in America, not if a couple followed a medically
recommended prenatal regiment. In just a little more than
two days, I was shoved out of that America into a
third-world place where the mysteries of birth, death,
and living converge without benefit of medicine and where
chance proves the more powerful ally to the living than
science. I wondered how third-world parents coped with
infant death. Could there be grief when there is no
birth? Is there loss when nothing but a biological
promise is gone? In that moment, I understood what
millions of third-world parents take for granted: Birth
and death are wrapped in an identical garment.
Maslowe entered the room. His
face was drawn, his skin ashen. "Maggie
is in recovery. You can see her in a few minutes. She's
tired and medicated, so don't stay too long." He
looked at the floor. "I'm sorry about your son. I
can't explain it. I haven't seen anything like it in
forty years of practice."
"Is she all right?"
"Yes. We need a minute to
help her feel more comfortable. Then you can see
her."
Maslowe waited as if he expected
me to speak, but I didn't. He left the room. I remembered
that Maggie had celebrated the news of this pregnancy by
dancing a mock strip tease on the kitchen table, pulling
me in tightly against her legs, demanding that I make
sure the pregnancy take hold. We made love twice that
night. Once on the kitchen table, then again at three in
the morning on our bed. A nurse peered over
the side of the door.
"You can see your wife
now."
Maggie was lying on her side,
facing away from me. Her black hair flowed down her back.
She turned. Her eyes were large, red, and moist. She
reached for me. I walked over. She grabbed my forearms,
pulled me towards her, and hugged. She cried, saying,
"I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry."
Each time I repeated, "Don't
say that" into the shoulder of her hospital gown. I
wasn't sorry but glad. She was alive. I wanted to wheel
her out of the hospital, down the street, to our home.
"We're taking her to her
room, so would you say goodbye. You both need rest,"
the nurse said.
"Say hello to Brian for me.
Give him a kiss. Tell Mom I'm fine."
"Sure. We'll see you in a
few hours. Rest."
"I love you."
"I love you too."
I drove forty-five miles per hour
through the streets of Quinnipiac. Halfway down one, I
slammed the brakes. A tear clung to my right cheek as I
pounded the steering wheel.
Ann, Brian, and I visited Maggie
twice that day in the maternity ward. She was in a room
by herself, but as we sat, usually watching television in
silence, we could hear the babies, the happy relatives,
the joy that come in birth's aftermath. After each visit,
I asked the floor nurse to move Maggie off the ward. That
night after visiting hours, she was moved to a room at
the end of the hall.
The next day, Maggie and I were
watching a soap. Brian was at school, Ann in the hospital
cafeteria getting some coffee. Maggie complained that the
nurses were avoiding her. I ignored the statement by
recounting how the doctor explained that the maternity
ward was medically the best place for her and that she
would be out in a day. I never told her of the cries of
healthy babies that I heard as I walked down the hall,
nor the voices of celebrating uncles, aunts, nieces,
nephews, grandparents, and fathers. The muttering of
nurses to new mothers about nursing, washing, and
handling babies. I absorbed the sounds, sucking them deep
inside and holding them so Maggie wouldn't hear, would
never hear.
"Seth."
"Yes." I looked at her,
making sure she knew I was paying attention.
"I want the baby
cremated." She said it without taking her eyes off
the television.
I never responded. I couldn't.
I've never lied to her, but I couldn't have Shane
cremated. He had a name. I wanted a grave, a place to
visit, to grieve. Shane and Brian were my hopes, my
promises that existence had purpose, and with their
new lives, they represented the potential of what
humankind can become. I never told. That afternoon, I
went to a mortician with my mother. His office was down
street from the hospital. He had asked many questions,
name, address, telephone, and so on. My mother answered
for me.
"What do you want done with
the deceased? You do have several options in this
case."
"Burial at a grave
site." My mother answered.
"Will you stop? This is my
child." I paused. "My wife wants to cremate the
baby."
"Many couples make similar
arrangements."
"But I don't think that's
what I want to do."
"Do you need more time? You
can. We can do the initial preparation."
"No. I want him
buried." I wanted a recognition of his existence, a
marker of gold, frankincense, and myrrh.
"He should be buried in
this," my mother said as she passed a box to the
mortician. It contained a white baptismal gown, my
grandfather's. She turned to me suddenly, "He was
baptized, wasn't he?"
"What's the difference?
Probably. It is a Catholic hospital. I hope someone had
the brains to do that. But what's the damn difference?
God wouldn't deny a chance at Heaven to a baby for want
of a ritual. If He could, then He can go fuck
Himself."
"I was just asking." My
mother looked away.
The mortician stared for a
second. "These are difficult times," he said.
"For everyone. We can make it simpler. We have
several programs." He paused again. "Let's
start with the basic questions. How much can you
afford?"
"It doesn't matter." My
mother said.
"It does matter," I
answered her. "Five hundred, I guess."
"That's more than enough. We
have programs from two to four hundred. May I suggest the
three hundred one."
"Sounds all right, I
guess," I answered.
"I assume there will be no
services at the funeral home."
"Right."
"What about at the grave
site?"
"I want a priest, but no one
will be present."
"I will be." My mother
said.
"No, you will not."
"But I want to. He should
have it."
"He doesn't care at this
point. And Maggie should be the first one at the site.
There's no discussion, Mom. None. Okay?"
"Okay."
I wondered by the tone of her
voice if she would attend the service anyway, but I
realized what I didn't know, I wouldn't care about. There
were more important things, primarily Maggie, Brian, and
me, and I had forgotten about me, especially after Ann,
Brian, and I returned from the hospital each night. The
phone calls, especially at first night, seemed endless.
Family, friends, and work associates repeated hollow
phrases, none listening to me, repeating their own grief,
uttering false hopes, and then asking for news of Maggie.
After the first three calls, I sounded as if I were
reading a script. Then after the final call, Ann and I
would exchange a few facts about Brian and say nothing
more. We would watch television, she drinking scotch, me
wine, both neither feeling drunk, although that was
always our goal, at least mine. In bed, I would
think of Maggie, hoping she was sedated, dreaming, and
forgetting in night's shroud.
When Maggie came home, she rested
on the sofa while Ann cleaned, sent Brian to school, and
prepared meals. I returned to work. I had a lot to make
up, but I didn't have the enthusiasm. My colleagues
stayed away from me. Some probably thought I wanted to be
left alone, but most were afraid.
A week after Ann left, I found
Maggie crying in our bedroom when I came home from work.
"I never got a chance to say
good-bye," Maggie said.
"I never had him
cremated." I waited for an explosion, her rage at
everything being released at me in a single instance.
"What do you mean?"
"I don't mean anything. I
had him buried at St. Michael's."
Laughing and crying, she ran to
me. As she lay her head on my shoulder, she said,
"Thank you for not listening to me."
Six weeks later Maggie's milk had
dried, but she still hadn't had her period. Maslowe put
her on a hormone therapy. Maggie, who usually never
stopped talking, was quiet. I watched her depression
deepen. At night, she would lie on the sofa, watching
television. She would fall asleep at nine. When I woke
her, she would refuse to go to bed, insisting that she
was watching the show. Later we would drink, staying up
until two, wrapped in silence and booze. When she did
talk, she mixed images of death and sleep and
forgetfulness in the same sentence.
I was worried. I would leave late
for work in the morning and rush home early at night. I
would call from the office or the road three times a day.
I would let the phone ring, seven, eight, nine times, and
with each ring my pulse would quicken, my stomach churn,
my palms sweat, as I imagined her lying on the ground,
blood pooling around her body, and Brian screaming. I
would call back every five minutes until she answered,
usually after getting out of the bathroom or returning
from the store.
One Saturday I took Brian to
Burger King. The house had become so gloomy, Maggie in
particular. I wanted Brian out of the house.
"Why the treat?" Brian
asked as he nibbled some French fries.
"I thought you could use the
break. Mommy and I have been so busy with things lately.
I thought you were getting the short end of the
stick."
"Oh."
"So how are the French
fries?"
"Daddy?"
"Yes?"
"Where's Shane now?"
"We've been through
this."
"I know, but where?"
"Heaven, with Grandpa.
Remember?"
"Yes."
"Is he happy?"
"Yes."
"Doesn't he miss us?"
I sat looking into his brown
eyes. I wanted to cry. I wanted to say how much I missed
him. To crawl into a ball. "I cannot explain it. At
least now. Please just believe me. Will you?"
"Yes."
There was a long pause.
"Daddy?"
"Yes."
"Why do you look sad?"
"I can't answer that one
either, Brian. Why don't you eat your burger."
Eventually Maggie got her period.
She dropped the hormone therapy. She returned to work. We
got on with our lives as too many people had told us to
do. Maggie had drained herself, every emotion had leaked
from her body. She went to a support group, listening and
talking. I went for three sessions, but I couldn't bear
the grieving, a group of people not letting go, all
becoming reminders of pain, a pain I would never forget.
I stopped going, and my pain stands as a shrine to Shane.
No one notices. I go through the motions. Never
forgetting what I buried during that time, not just the
loss of Shane but the loss of an innocence, of not being
able to protect my family, my children. Along side the
shrine lay cool ashes buried six feet into my
consciousness of conversations that vanished. The
simplistic sentiments that I head for weeks after Shane's
death: "Maybe it was for the best," "Now
he, it was a he wasn't it, is in God's hands." Screw
the best, screw God. Screw the women who dismissed my
torment, telling me to support Maggie, for whom they
drowned with compassion. Screw the men, God, double screw
them. They didn't want me to mention the subject, and the
few who listened would give a half-time speech about
being strong. Where was I to get the strength, the
willingness not to pour a quart of wine into my gut each
night, the ability to ignore what I was feeling. Then
there's the image, the crimson placenta and umbilical
cord from Brian's birth, which Maslowe showed me. The
cord was strong, filled with food and oxygen, yet smooth
and soft to the touch, and that which gave life to Brian
hanged Shane, tightening itself, strangling his soft
small neck, at the same time constricting into a knot,
cutting cut off oxygen and food. Starvation,
malnutrition, affixation, and not yet born. One in a
thousand chance. His death had one chilling explanation.
Dr. Shaeffer would have given it to me to solve. He isn't
an ob-gyn but my professor of probability. Shane was the
reality of problems I solved one semester: What is the
chance of Shane being strangled by his cord, assuming his
parents followed prescribed prenatal care? Therefore
probability is more powerful than the protection I
afforded Shane, Maggie, or Brian. It is more powerful
than God because God, unlike Herod, wouldn't kill the
innocents for some larger plan.
We were back to normal, and I was
driving to work. My vision was suddenly covered in my own
blood. I saw a knife cutting into my left wrist. I
watched as blood dripped like juices from a roast. I
blinked. I shivered.
The image has returned at an
unpredictable frequency, and each time I shiver with
fright and my heart sags for I remember that which buried
is never gone but that which is gone is forever lost.
Contributor:
Joseph Conlin
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